Today we launch the beginning of a series of articles around creating and sustaining confidence. Each article will contain a specific exercise for increasing your self-confidence. Just reading these exercises alone won’t do much for you, but if you actually DO the exercises, you will find that your confidence rises pretty quickly and becomes sustainable as well.
What is vexing about confidence, as opposed to, say, learning to use Excel, is that while learning Excel is largely about mastering knowledge and techniques, confidence is ultimately about beliefs: what do you believe about yourself? Do you believe that you are capable and powerful? Or do you believe you are in over your head and you hope nobody finds out?
So, if confidence is about beliefs, how do you change those beliefs so that you have more confidence and reap more success? In this post and subsequent posts, we will present one exercise at a time for you to use. Today we start with the “Collection of Triumphs.”
Collection of Triumphs
Everyone has had triumphs in their lives. Take a moment and think about it. Did you get 100% on your algebra final in high school? TRIUMPH! Were you employee of the month? TRIUMPH! Did you teach your little brother to ride a bike? TRIUMPH! Did you give a great presentation that earned compliments from the boss? TRIUMPH! Did you donate blood and save someone’s life? TRIUMPH! Do you have a beautiful singing voice? Every time you sing is a TRIUMPH! Somewhere out there in the world, someone loves you, someone is counting on you, you are that person’s hero or role model. TRIUMPH!
Regardless of how you feel right now, you have had triumphs in your life, and no amount of struggle or setback can take that away. Remember that. So, what we want to do now is to bring attention to your triumphs. How? We create a collection of triumphs. For me, this is a manila folder. For others, maybe a journal, or a collage, or a list you read out loud. The idea is you have a way to collect your triumphs, and we want to make this collection nice and big. So, into this folder or journal or collage, put the A+ paper from school, the article in the newspaper about your volunteer efforts, the nice memo from your boss, the touching card from your sweetheart, anything you can think of that reminds you 1) that you are a good person; and 2) that you have done good things.
What makes this so powerful is that you create this collection, then everyday you review it, to bring all those wonderful qualities and achievements back to your attention, and then you add to it. When you need a pick me up, when the whole world hates you and you can’t seem to do anything right, take a moment and flip through your folder or journal or read your list to yourself. This is the foundational technique for confidence. Just doing this will make your confidence soar. Commit to doing this every day for 30 days and you will see huge results.
David Kaiser, Ph.D.
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